October 12th, 2020
By Alana Muench
Growing up my mother worked three jobs and cared for two kids. Being a single mother is nothing easy. Always trying to make ends meet, meant there wasn't enough time to spend together as a family.
I always understood my mom had rest and sleep during the day because she has a night shift that night.
Having a four-year-old and an eleven-year-old, we definitely needed some one on one time. That quality time to bond together and make memories. Through the hard times, my mom managed to fit in trips to the park Instead of the arcade or the fancy kid places.
As I grow older, I realize the importance of family and how we are not guaranteed tomorrow. Prioritizing time with your loved ones is something to cherish. I often like to make time for my younger brother, parents, and cousins. Taking my mom or dad out for lunch really makes a difference especially if you haven’t seen them in a while.
Before COVID I made time for shopping trips with my cousins and school presentations, art shows and recitals. Being present makes an impact on the young ones who are aware of who is there and who is not.
The main reason why family time is so important is that you need to develop ties and bond with your family. Often kids decide to join gangs or groups because they welcome them in, to become a part of their family.
Kids need a sense of belonging and security, as they need to feel they have someone they can turn and look up to, for anything. Spending family time together ensures that a deep, strong, family bond develops. I try to resemble this for my younger brother because I want him to know that he can come to me for anything.
Talking and listening to one another builds patience and even showing more affection
strengthens a bond. Recently my mom came to me and told me I don’t tell her I love her that often. I felt bad and thought the reason for this was because I didn’t hear it that often myself growing up!
Regardless I was going to be the bigger person and make that extra effort. Now I make sure to say “I love you” at the end of phone calls, before bed, and when I simply just want to reassure her that I do love her. It’s also nice to hear it back and gives me that comfort.
I appreciate everything my mom has done for my brother & I and did her best to maintain a good family structure. If we work as a team we ensure everyone is happy with how our family unit is structured. I encourage everyone to make an effort to spend more time with your family because new memories can be created and those moments will be cherished forever, and take lots of pics!